What Not to Say to a Man on the
First Few Dates.
Women also misunderstand men. A woman often mistakenly assumes that if a man is the right man for her, he will know what she wants and will automatically consider her needs and do the things she does to show that he cares. When he doesn't fulfill this unrealistic expectation, then she becomes unnecessarily frustrated and discouraged.
For example, a woman will make the mistake of demonstrating her interest by asking a man a lot of questions. As he talks she continues to listen patiently. She assumes that if she listens with great interest, he will be more interested in her. This is true with women , but not always true with men. The more a man talks, the more interested he becomes in what he is talking about. For lot of men to become more interested in a woman, she needs to do more of the talking and authentically share herself in a positive manner.
Before I go on here I want to say this about men. They are already thinking about what it might be like to have sex with you. So look good, smile a lot and use your eyes. A good man will ask questions about you, such as what your interests and opinions are, and they sincerely want to hear what you have to say; this is the more evolved man.
How a woman talks can make a world of difference. For women, when two friends get together they enjoy the opportunity to share freely the mishaps, frustrations, disappointments, and complaints of the week. A woman's willingness to "share all" is actually a compliment to the other women. It is a sign of trust, goodwill, and friendship.
While the gesture with women may be "putting their best foot forward," With many men it is not. A man can easily get the wrong impression. When a woman dwells on negative feelings or problems in her life, instead of valuing her willingness to share openly, a man can mistakenly assumes that she is difficult to please. Just as a woman is attracted to a man who shows interest in her, a man is attracted to a woman who clearly can be pleased. When she appears to be difficult to please, he may easily become turned off.
To create the ideal opportunity to experience the best a man has to offer and for a man to experience her best, a woman needs to be careful to share the positive side of her life and avoid dwelling on negative experiences. Conversation should be light, not heavy, focused on current events in the world and in their lives, but discussed in a positive manner.
This does not imply in any way that you should be fake. Authenticity is what makes anyone most attractive. Everyone has a positive and negative side and an autonomous side. Later on you can share the other part. It is just a matter of timing.
To make the best
impression and to get to know someone most effectively, it is important that we
first get a chance to know the positive side. In the first three stages of
dating - attraction, uncertainty, and exclusivity - it is best to focus on
putting forth our best self. After getting to know our best sides, then in
stage four, intimacy, we are ready to deal with the less positive sides of who
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