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This web page was updated February 12, 2012; the next update will be february 26. 

Two relationship questions are added every two weeks and two are removed.

2/12/2012: Faith, 24: We break up and get back together often. Is that normal? NO. Breakups happen because something's broken. Fix whatever it is or move on. Another reason some women end up in this bad cycle is because it is hard for them to find a new man. My recommendation is do develop skills to seduce most any man, a lot of that information is on this web site. There are many women that will choose being in a bad relationship over being alone.

2/12/2012: Maya, 21: I always end up in the friend zone. Why don't guys see me as girlfriend material? You're unknowingly giving a just-friends vibe to avoid rejection. Flirt more what feels way "obvious" is likely spot-on. There is another possibility, if this always happens to you; men have you pegged as being a poor or conservative lover. Or an ex lover made it public that you are a conservative lover. Getting a tattoo is not the answer to this problem. If you are truly with a guy you are crazy for do this. Take a six inch or longer banana, when he is looking make it disappear by pushing it to the back of your throat and pull it back out again. Then make lots of eye contact when he looks your way, and he will. Make sure you lick your lips and smile.

1/29/2012: Zoe, 23: He gave me his number. When should I call? Joe: After 48 to 72 hours. Any later and it's a ploy; any earlier and it's desperate.

1/29/2012: Nathan, 24: Is it healthy to never fight?  Joe: Yes, if you acknowledge and talk out disagreements. However, having no disagreements is a fraud. You both have differences. If you find yourself many times trying to be someone you are not out fear that he or she will drop you; something is going to blow. We all should strive for self-improvements that make us better and healthier. Don't make changes just to fit in with others, you will soon lose yourself. Reveal your rarity: There's no point in hiding your quirks and idiosyncrasies. The right man or woman will love you most for what's unique about you. I need to tell you in all my years of studying the social sciences, I have never known a healthy couple that last to not have some arguments. Just don't make the same mistake that so many do and that is to carry with you emotional baggage and anger. Learn from problems and move on.

1/15/2012: Payton, 25: He asked how many men I've slept with. What can I say that's not specific? Joe: "My number is more than Mother Teresa's but less than Madonna's."

1/15/2012: Maria, 20: What's the best way to get him to meet my mom and dad? Joe: Invite him to do something low-key with them, like grab coffee, and keep it under an hour. He really should not have a problem meeting your mom and dad, if he loves you and is truly interested in a committed relationship. I completely understand a man's fear of this if he loves you. He does not want to blow this moment with your parent's. My advice to your guy would be this; if you score big points with her mom your sex with your girl friend will most likely hit new highs, the intimacy will be very fulfilling, and she may do things for you she may not have done in the past. It's worth it, I always strived to make a big impression with parents of girl friends, the big rewards follow. Watch out for men that do not ask you to meet their parent's. It is a big sign that you are short term at best.

1/02/2012: Katy, 19: What does it really mean if he says "I need some space"? Joe: Many times it means with a man "I want to break up but am too chicken to tell you." But not always, it can be not good if you are too clingy emotionally dependent. He may love you a lot or have deep affections for you, but after a long day at work he needs to unwind read or most men watch TV. Give him some room, but if he does not want to see you on his days off, it's not good. It also would be not good if you gave him the space but he did not call you. And no one, you or he should ask the other one to give up their friends; unless the friends are felons or doing felony acts. Remember this, if you start a relationship or dating by texting several times a day or once a day you set a precedent. If you get too busy and can't keep up this pattern, some dating partners think you are avoiding them. To make sure you are not perceived as needy, and actually you do have a life outside of Face Book and Tweeting, don't text or call everyday. Texting and calling can very quickly become not so special if it is too often. One recommendation, if you really like the other person set up your dating plans with them for the up and coming weekend or when you are not working. This way if you don't call our text them they know you have a date coming up and you do want to see them.

1/02/2012: Madison, 27: I say "I love you" daily, but my husband doesn't. Why? Joe: Men do not verbalize their feelings; they show them. As long as he's doing that, you're good. However, if I were to give him advice I would tell him to say "I love you" more during a week because it is important to you.

Is it a good idea to buy a guy I am attracted to a drink, or will he think I am coming on to strong? Sue from Minneapolis, MN; Age 22, Profession - EMT

I would just ask: "Do you mind if I join you for a drink?" Can I buy you a drink is cliche? Guys appreciate when a woman makes the first move, particularly if she is very spontaneous, smart and fun. Instead of a drink just ask "Would you like to join me in a game of pool? Would you like to break?" If you are at a sports bar and a football or basketball game is on, make a bet with him on the ending score at the end of the quarter; if it is baseball, the end of the inning. If you are at a bowling alley ask him to join you for a game. It is much easier to relax and find common ground when you write your own script and get involved in a little fun.

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12/18/2011: Isabella, 35: He's in his early 20s, and I'm in my mid-30s. Can it work? Joe: Yes, if you have similar goals. If you are looking at this relationship from the perspective of can this work as a life partner / marriage? You need to find out some things that research has found to be deal breakers. Are you both pro-life or pro-chose or not? Religious beliefs, are they the same or if different, can you accept and live with the differences. There is a lot of hype about compatibility out there, I think too much. The secret I have found in research, and personally is we are all different, we are better off accepting differences. Also, I find differences interesting and enjoy the unique qualities of the individual. But you should have same ideas about managing money, and raising children. If you are both spiritual and have the same ideas about sex you will have a better chance. There are always going to be some arguments, don't let them get out of control. Never stop dating each other, keep up the romance. Have a life outside of the two of you. Look out for drug and alcohol problems. If he is close to his family and Mom, research tells us he will be better with you. I better stop now, I could keep on going.

12/18/2011: Jessica, 21: Why does he think it is okay to tease my friends? Many men relate by trashing each other, so it is instinctively how he connects with your pals. If your friends are taking his kidding personally, let your guy know and ask him to stop; or have him tell your friends he only kids around with people he likes.

12/04/2011: Grace, 32: My husband's a morning person, and I'm not. How do we get in sync? Joe: Each week, try going to bed 10 minutes earlier, and have him stay up 10 minutes later. You should know that he will for the most part always be a better lover in the morning or early afternoon. His testosterone is much higher in the morning and is at it is lowest in the evening. Testosterone is the hormone that fuels the brain's sexual motor.

12/04/2011: Hailey, 45: He started losing some hair. Okay to bring it up? Joe: NO. Would you want him to tell you if your boobs start to sag or your hair is getting gray?

11/20/2011: Faith, 26: I cheated, but I want to stay together. Do I confess? Joe: No. Figure out why you did it, then put your effort into fixing that aspect of the relationship. But, do get tested for STDs because you don't want to pass a STD on to the one you want to stay with.

11/20/2011: Molly, 27: We've been dating for a year. Can I bring up marriage? Joe: Sure. Ask a no-pressure hypothetical, like "Who do you think will be your best man?" Molly, it is my understanding that you are 27, I am sure you are a remarkable woman, don't wait too long for this guy pop the question, if you want to be married. I usually recommend no longer than 3 years of dating and no less than 1 year of dating when it comes to poping the marriage question.

11/06/2011: Elle, 30: I like my guy friend. How do I make a move without freaking him out? Joe: Gradually be more flirtatious, like by touching his leg as you talk. Then gauge his reaction.

11/06/2011: Sophia, 25: Do guys kiss and tell? Joe: Not like women do, a small percentage yes. For the most part no; most men bond by doing stuff, not by talking, so your sex life is not being dissected.

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