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Compliment a Man The Right Way

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How to Effectively Deliver Direct Positives

  Yes, there are compliments that men really like, and I am going to tell you what several of these are.

  But, if  you are meeting a man for the first time, or are in the early dating stage, it is important to get a good conversation going. So, you should deliver an  admiring comment the best way possible. 

The most common way to express admiration is to deliver a direct positive. This type of flattering remark tells a man  in a straightforward manner what it is you appreciate about his behavior, appearance, and possessions. When I bring up this skill in workshops, I usually begin by asking my students to offer a flattering remark to  me or someone else in the class. Here are the first compliments I received one time in each category:

   Behavior:  "You're a good teacher."
  Appearance:  "You have a nice haircut."
  Possessions:  "I like your shoes."

  Positives like these can be improved and heightened in two ways:

1. Be specific. Your positive statements will be stronger and more believable if you tell men exactly what you like and make it evident that each remark applies uniquely to the man  you are addressing and not just to anyone.

  For example:
    Behavior:  "I like the way you come around during   exercises and give each of us your personal attention."
  Appearance:  "I think that new styling really highlights your eyes."
  Possessions:  "Those tan loafers go well with your khaki pants."

  2.Say the person's name: It has been recognized since Plato and Socrates that most men consider their name to be the most beautiful sound in the world and that they pay more attention to sentences in which it appears. In addition, using a man's name is yet another way of showing that each accolade you pay is tailored uniquely to fit that man alone.

For example:
   Behavior: "Joe, "I like the way you come around during   exercises and give each of us your personal attention."
  Appearance:  "Joe, "I think that new styling really highlights your eyes."
  Possessions:  "Joe, "Those tan loafers go well with your khaki pants."

  How to Help Others Accept Our Direct Positives

  Dear Abby:
    My man has a habit of down-grading sincere compliments.
   If I say, "Gee, Hon, you look nice in that suit," he response is likely to be, "Do you really think so? It's just a suit my friend gave me."
   Or if I tell him he did a great job cleaning up the house, his response might be, "Well, I guess you haven't seen the kids' room."
  I find it hard to understand why he can't accept a compliment without putting himself down. And it hurts me a little. How do you explain it, Abby?
                                                           --Perplexed

In all likelihood, you too have found that many people have a hard time accepting your direct good wishes. Out of a sense of modesty or because they simply can't think of other ways to reply, they often deny the validity of your praise and thus discourage you from paying them more good wishes in the future.

   Behavior:  "Oh, I'm just doing my job."
  Appearance:  "I think the stylist cut is too short, myself."
  Possessions:  "You like these old shoes?"

   Whatever the reason for this problem, there is something you can do to make good wishes easier and more rewarding for you to give and for others to receive: You can follow your compliments with questions. "Open-ended questions are best, but anything is fine.) That way, when others hear your compliments, instead of having to fumble about for a response, they can simply thank you and answer your questions.

Here, then, is what our original direct positives look like after they have been made specific, have had the recipient's name added, and have been followed by a question:

   Behavior: "Todd, I like the way you come around during exercise and give each of us your personal attention. Tell me, what's the single most common error that you observe?
  Appearance: "Todd, I think that new layered styling really highlights your eyes. How did you happen to try it?"
  Possessions: "Todd, those tan loafers go well with your khaki pants. What made you decide to select that style?"

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While men don't necessarily want women to lie if they're out of shape, it never hurts to notice he's looking good, or at least trying to look better.  "Tom, your arms are definitely looking good." Tell me, what exercise do you find most effective on your arms?"

  Laughing is flattering to him when he is trying to use his humor.

  Wow. (best done in a whisper) after you have sex with him or maybe when he is getting undressed.

"You are the man. If it comes from a woman, no matter the context, the message is that, hey, we're buddies, too. Which is actually pretty darn sexy.

If the man you are about to date or dating truly thinks family come before work make certain you let him know that's great.

  I'm not saying that men should have the only say in decisions, but some guys do feel like they actually have very little.  So say this; What do you think?

  Guys love feats. They love accomplishments. They love being acknowledged for their strength, power, and, simply, their masculinity.

  What a guy really wants to hear is that he's the total package, and this acknowledgement of that, whether it's referring to bedroom behavior or relationship stability, is the ultimate compliment of them all.

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