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Flirting  The Beginning
 

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The Basics and Beginning Principals of Flirting for Women. 

  This is the start of a series of articles about flirting for women so come back every week to see if there is something new.

  To begin with, there are five attitudes and seven skills you will need to become a great flirt.  For the most part, with flirting, it is mostly in your delivery.

  Most women will get the man because of their great attitude towards life; this is very attractive.  Being a good looker and maybe clever with words is worthless if your attitude is poor, energy is low and your outlook about your life is pessimistic . Be optimistic not pessimistic about the event or activity and the outcome of the day.

  Your attitude depends on your state of mind and through our research and experience we have identified five states of mind that make up a great flirting attitude.  Adopting a good flirtatious attitude and applying it to the skills you will learn will ensure you become a truly great flirt.
  The five states of mind or attitudes are:
     * playfulness
     * fun
     * taking notice
     * loving people
     * go for it.

  In turn each of these attitudes contain certain ingredients:
     * playfulness - light-hearted, high-spirited, little mischievous, frisky, teasing in a good way.
     * fun - witty, entertaining, lively, willing to play the game.
     * taking notice - observing, aware of the other person, showing an interest.
     *loving people - appreciation, acceptance, curiosity, gregarious, social.
     * go for it - taking risks/take action, liberated, optimistic, opportunistic.

  Being playful and light-hearted makes the flirting safe but allows for a little naughtiness.  Using fun attracts people, they are drawn to the energy.  Taking notice allows the flirt to learn about the other person and show an interest, making the other person feel special and appreciated.

  Our research has shown that many great flirts have a lot of friends of the opposite sex.  Great flirts love people - male flirts love and have an affinity for women; female flirts love and have an understanding of men.  Flirts also know how to go for it.  They are not afraid to take risks because they have let go of past hurts and are optimistic about themselves and other people.

    There was study done with kids learning to play basketball.  The researchers divided the kids up into two groups.  One group got to go straight on the court and start shooting hoops.  The other group had to sit out on the sideline but were instructed to visualize the ball going in the hoop - how they would need to stand and how they would need to feel to get the ball in the hoop.  They were also told to believe they could get that ball in the hoop.  Both groups were then asked to take a series of shots at the hoop.  The group that had been practicing did pretty well but the group that had been sitting on the sideline getting their attitude right, well, they blitzed it.  There have been studies on adults trying to attract the opposite sex using visualizing techniques and affirmations.  These adults used these techniques most of the week and before going out to approach, attract, and get that phone number or even have sex.  The adults that used these techniques had 71% better results than the groups that did not use visualizing and affirmations.

  You can change your attitude by changing what you think and how you feel.  To be playful you just have to think playful and feel playful.  If you don't particularly feel playful right now, think back to a time when you did.  Notice what you were thinking and feeling then.  Become aware of how just thinking of a time when you were acting playful causes you to feel playful now.

  Another way of getting the right attitude is to imagine what it would be like to already be there, have it.  If you were going to be playful, how would you stand, how would you breathe, what would you be thinking and doing?

When you are feeling playful you are light-hearted, high-spirited, mischievous, frisky and teasing.  How would you be if you were feeling like this?

  The same process works for the other four attitudes.  Fun is similar to playfulness.  Taking notice is when you turn up your senses so that you can tune in to people.  To love people, think  of those people you already accept and really appreciate - how do you feel when you are around them?  Now imagine looking at everybody you meet in the same way.

  Have you ever been in a situation where you just went for it?  You had nothing to lose and everything to gain, your heart and mind both agreed that this was the right thing to do and you were the right person to do it.  This is the "go for it" state of mind and it is the way great flirts live.

  In the next free article there will some great exercises for getting the right attitude and being in the mood to flirt.

Click Here. Flirting for Women the First Steps #2.

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