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Attracting a Great Man and Your Self-Esteem
Your Self-Esteem
This a series of articles about attracting the right man and your self-esteem.
Part 1.
Nothing is more critical when attracting good men then your self-esteem. Here are some key points to understand.
If I take a woman into a public setting to meet great men, without working through her poor self-esteem issues first, the following, is the likely outcome. With a poor self-esteem your self-doubt will come across in your voice, your hesitation, your nervous body language, your fear of rejection, your sweaty hands, your lack of action to do the right thing at the right time. You will have a hard time making good eye contact, and your smile that you need will not always be there. You will have a hard time possessing a good flirting attitude. Also, you will not be that approachable. People with self-esteem issues will procrastinate. Self-doubt = procrastination, procrastination = loss of love, and loss of opportunity.
Positive state of mind + knowledge + action = power.
You can have a overall good self-esteem but maybe with attracting and approaching men it is poor. A good self-esteem = confidence.
If you have a poor self-esteem and you are
attractive or not, you can attract bad men that can beat you down. You
will also feel that this is the best you can have. Do not fall
into this rut.
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Self-esteem is essential for psychological survival. It is an emotional sine qua non - without some measure of self-worth, life can be enormously painful, with many basic needs going unmet.
One of the main factors differentiating humans from other animals is the awareness of self: the ability to form an identity and then attach a value to it. In other words, you have the capacity to define who you are and then decide if you like that identity or not. The problem of self-esteem is this human capacity for judgment. It's one thing to dislike certain colors, noises, shapes or sensations. But when you reject parts of yourself, you greatly damage the psychological structures that literally keep you from being successful.
Judging and rejecting yourself causes enormous pain. And in the same way that you would favor and protect a physical wound, you find yourself avoiding anything that might aggravate the pain of self-rejection in any way. You take fewer social, academic, or career risks. You make it more difficult for yourself to meet people, interview for a job, or push hard for something where you might not succeed. You limit your ability to open yourself with others, express your sexuality, be the center of attention, hear criticism, ask for help, or solve problems.
To avoid more judgments and self-rejection, you erect barriers of defense. Perhaps you blame and get angry, or bury yourself in perfectionist type work. Or you brag. Or you make excuses. Sometimes people turn to alcohol or drugs.
These articles are about stopping the judgments. It's about healing the old wounds of hurt and self-rejection. How you perceive and feel about yourself can change. And when those perceptions and feelings change, the ripple effect will touch every part of your life with a gradually expanding sense of freedom.
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Things and Actions That Can Stop You From Attracting and Keeping a Good
Man and Your Self-Esteem Part 2.
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a Man With Your Eyes and the Sciences That Shows How and Why it Works.
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Not Talk About These Issues With a Man When You First Meet Him, If You
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