How To Approach a Woman
1..
How to Approach a Woman at a Bar or
Anywhere.
Making Your
Approach to a Woman. Ok guys, here are the right moves and
when you should make them.
Assuming
you did everything I told you in First Impressions 1 and 2, we are ready
to talk about approaching your quarry. Homo sapiens think and over
analyze too much unlike animals that don’t worry but merely react.
Sometimes men ask too many questions. Will she think I am forward? Do
I play hard to get? Do I look good enough to make the approach?
Shyness often overwhelms men and paralyzes them.
Ok guys,
what are the right moves and when should you make them? Well, when in
doubt apply this rule. When you spot the woman you want to meet,
maybe your future bride, do this.
You must immediately approach
her. “He Who Hesitates Is
Lost.
I would
like to share a story with you about a man, possibly like you. His name
is Todd. Todd is a professional man in his late 20’s and is
average looking. If I am working with you as a client, one on one,
and we go out in public together to work on dating skills, I may not
give any advice the first time. I like to get to know the man, what he
does and does not do.
Todd and
I were sitting in a restaurant at a table. There was a bar for people
not eating or waiting to be seated. Todd spotted a beautiful woman
sitting at the bar alone. Todd really wanted to meet this lady, in
fact, he called her his future bride. I told Todd that is great now
what are you going to do about it.
Todd,
not really knowing what to do, starts to plan. At first he says, “Maybe
I will just go up and say hello.” Then he decides, no that’s to boring
I must think of something unique. Todd says, “I know, I will just go up
and offer to buy her a drink. But, on second thought that would be to
commonplace.” “I know I’ve got it… I will go up and tell her I am in
love with her.” Todd stops and thinks some more. “No, that is to
forward I cannot possibly do that.” Believe me Todd kept on coming up
with all sorts of ideas. Keep in mind all along I am neither telling him
to take action or not take action upon these ideas.
Now I
looked over to the bar while Todd was thinking. I saw a man come up and
approach the woman of Todd’s dreams. The man just sat down right next
to this woman. Now as Todd is thinking about all these ideas for making
the perfect approach he looked up and saw the man and woman together
deep in conversation. Ok, Todd blew it big time. How many times have
you been in the same position that Todd was in? What did you do? Don’t
feel too bad for Todd though because after spending many sessions with
him he now has more dates than he can handle. If fact, the last time I
checked he was dating an incredible women and was very happy.
Guys if
you spot an attractive woman, what is your body telling you to do? No,
not what your mind is saying. Your body is most likely saying, “Get
going!” The sooner I can be rubbing up against that woman’s body the
better. Listen to your body.
One
strategy is this. Let your body do some talking. Use your eyes. Look
right into her eyes and hold it there for 3 seconds. She probably
will look away, most women will look away even if they think you’re
great; do not let that stop you. If she looks up at you again in about 5-45
seconds she welcomes your attention.
She may
look around the room at other guys but that’s all right. Clock how long
it takes for her to look back at you. Ok, guys, if it was less than a
minute do the following. Give her a smile and a little nod. If
she smiles back make your approach NOW. Now you’re
about to start doing what Todd did at this point and that is to think
too much about what you will do and
say. Stop this immediately and
get these thoughts out of your head.
At this point if you don’t do something fast it will be apparent that
you lack confidence. The longer you wait the less the chance is
that you can successfully meet and hook up with this woman. To
a woman, this is a most unattractive attribute, lack of confidence.
If you wait, the chance you did have, and you did have a good chance,
will slip away. You may not get a second chance either; so don’t count
on getting a second chance with this respectable, great looking woman at
the next meeting. Have a good
week
J. Joe
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All models were 18 or older at the time the photos or videos were taken.
